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What is Spiritual Bypassing?

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What is "Spiritual Bypassing"?


How do we make the change we want to see in the world? Why do we bother when it seems like change is so far away?

If you’ve been on the planet for the past few months, I think you can agree... 

2020 is here to wake us the ‘F’ up!

Our fellow humans are using this as an opportunity to finally use their voice and speak up about issues that matter… Not just to them, but to us as a collective! There is a transformation happening and we are watching it in real-time on local, federal, and worldwide levels!

For example, here are just a few of the wins that have occurred since the 2020 protests...

 -Los Angeles reduced police budget by $150 million

 -Choke holds outlawed in 13 major US cities as of June 2020

 -Louisville unanimously passed Breonna's Law, which requires police to knock and announce their presence and purpose before entering

 -Federal law now prohibits employers from discrimination on the basis of homosexuality or transgender status

 -New York state police officers are required to wear body cameras

 -Many confederate statues removed in Alabama, Virginia, Florida, Tennessee, and Kentucky

 -Walmart will no longer sell guns or lock up black hair products

 -Juneteenth is now a paid holiday for some companies like Nike, Vox Media, and Twitter

 -Editor in Chief of Refinery 29 and CEO of CrossFit resigned after claims of racism and toxic company culture

 -HBO removed Gone With the Wind from their online library

 -NASCAR banned confederate flag at ALL events

 -NFL commissioner admitted they were wrong about kneeling protests

 -Dallas PD now requires intervention from a fellow officer if one is using excessive force with a civilian

Laws and regulations are changing because our community is standing up and taking action!

But, while I cheer on the inside for the change that we humans are making, I’m taken aback with my scrolls through social media. It seems like I’m in a twilight zone episode of a pre-COVID 19 world where we’re doing business as usual… My feed is full of coffee mugs, beaches, lakes full of people, and large celebrations rather than the issues we are still out to change.

I thought, “WTF is going on? People are suddenly ripping off the band-aid while the wound is still open! What happened to the change we were out to make? They didn’t just disappear! Then it hit me...this is what spiritual bypassing looks like.

Spiritual bypassing is defined as “avoiding facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks”.  Essentially, only wanting to feel THE GOOD and BYPASSING the deep personal work that WILL heal ourselves and the collective.

I understand the want to go back to "normal" and the way things were. Between the pandemic, murder hornets, bush fires in Australia, and racial injustice... some normal would feel pretty great right about now! But pretending things are okay when they are not is the epitome of spiritual bypassing, avoidance and repression.

Ignoring the issues happening in the world around us is not the road to the change we need.

This is our opportunity to become aware of the issues in our communities, have uncomfortable conversations, and look inward at what we need to tend to energetically. Because when we work on ourselves, and change our energy, the energy around all of us changes.

So ask yourself, what can you do to support the change we are craving as a collective? How can we pave the way to justice? What do you need to work on internally that would exponentialize change on the planet? Because you are brilliant! You are a contribution, and your energy creates ripples in this world that affect millions.

The road to social equality may not be easy, but it is necessary. During this time it is normal to feel angry, frustrated, and sad.  And please let me give you the permission to FEEL it.  This is not the time to AVOID these feelings, because feeling the emotions is the only way to move the energy. So in turn, we can return to our highest frequency of love and light.

WE NEED TO BE THE CHANGE WE WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD!

About Tamara Ross

Tamara Ross is the founder and CEO of My Life My Design. She is a highly sought after Energetics Expert and the creator of the Energetic Self Mastery Program. She not only trains individuals and entrepreneurs to create MORE for themselves and their lives, but also trains individuals to impact others with a certified Energetic Coaching Program.

Tamara’s teachings in energy guides individuals to create lives filled with love, joy, success and balance all while increasing their profits and money flows. She trains people in removing the barriers to their success so they can manifest ANYTHING they desire.

Tamara's expertise has allowed for her to create a house in the mountains and a vacation house on the beach, grow a multiple 6- figure company with a 70% profitability margin, and live a life with no compromises all while positively impacting thousands of individuals world wide.

Tamara Ross

Founder and CEO of My Life My Design

Self Mastery

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Energy and Self-Mastery:  



How does your energy affect yourSELF and your ability to become masterful? 

When it comes to energies, meditation, manifestation, and just overall connecting with your higher self, many people tend to think this is some man-made, woo-woo crap. Well, I’m here to tell you it's not!

Providing guidance on how to improve and transmute your energy is my JAM! 

For over a decade, people have come to me to learn how to create a life that is fulfilled with everything they desire. From love, money, business, to living a life of luxury, your energy and what you put out into the universe is a key factor to getting in alignment and creating the life you’ve always imagined.

So, what is energy? Well my friend… I’m glad you asked! Energy is made up of three things: your thoughts, feelings, and actions.  Why should you care about this? Well,if you want to become energetically masterful or at least more SELF masterful, you need to master these three things.  And if you want to make any kind of change in your life, you not only need to become aware of your blockages but also will want to tune into what your blocks are in these three specific areas.  Once you’ve done that your next steps will be to clear and align with what it is you want to create.

Now you may be thinking…ok Tamara, what does energy have to do with self-mastery? Self-mastery is the ability to get out of your own way  and then create the thing you desire most. It takes self-awareness and a deep willingness to change and do something new and different.   But, without a doubt, becoming SELF MASTERFUL IS something that you CAN do, and it’s easier than you think.

The first step in changing your life is actually tuning into YOUR ENERGY! There is no way around it. You’ll have to think, feel, and act in new ways that allow you to be at the same vibration with the thing you desire most.  So let’s break this down.

Thoughts ARE Energy

Mindset. Mindset. Mindset. You hear people talk about it, rant about and you’ve probably gone to work to change yours.  Well the truth is it’s one part of a 3 part system to give you REAL LASTING change.  If your thoughts are out of whack, you’ll notice everything seems to go off the rails.  So, You’ve gotta get right with your mind and have full belief in what you’re doing if you want to succeed.  The places where people get hung up is when you have doubt, fear or a lack of confidence, around you pursuing what you want.  This activates a negative energy and that begins to manifest around you.  Becoming aware of your thoughts and your mindset is easy because these are typically the things you say about the thing you are wanting to create.  Ex. of limiting thoughts would be: “I hope it all turns out,”  “Well, I don’t want that to happen, but if it does I’ll deal,” “I guess I’m fine with that,” “Well, it’s not like I could really have *fill in the blank* anyway,”  Yes, these are sneaky… they sound good, but in the background, do you sense the Doubt?  

In order to be in alignment with the two other forms of energy and to make your desires a reality, you have to make sure your thoughts are clear and COMPLETELY in alignment with what you want most. You have to be willing to invoke a confidence that it’s not going any other way!

Feelings ARE Energy

Most of our FEELINGS elude us.  To be honest most of our parents and families never taught us how to talk about or even identify our feelings.  We are taught that we shouldn’t be sad, angry and upset and if you are any of those you definitely shouldn’t show it.  

I would say one of the hardest parts about being married for me was being able to tune into how I actually felt about things and then being able to share those feelings with my husband.  And it wasn’t because I didn’t want to, it was because I never really learned how to.  So notice that if you have any sort of feelings of inadequacy,  sadness, anger, or resentment around the thing you desire, you aren’t then aligned with what you want.  You’re aligned in the negative energy of not having it.  That energy will produce more feelings of inadequacy,  sadness, anger, or resentment and so on and so forth, but the biggest culprit here is being able to identify what the feeling is, again because we haven’t been trained to do that.  

The good news is you can change the energy simply by getting to the root of the feeling and giving back to who it belongs to.  By doing this you’ll change your energy field and be more aligned in what you want to create in your life.

Actions ARE Energy

I CANNOT stress this enough…YOUR ACTIONS HAVE TO BE CONSISTENT WITH THE THING THAT YOU WANT TO CREATE! IF you say that you want to be a millionaire, you can’t be making choices that are based in scarcity or lack… hoping something will just happen or change in your reality.  The only way you’re going to become a millionaire is to align in and take millionaire actions.  

If you want to live in abundance, do the things in your life as if you’re already a millionaire…do millionaire thangs! Actions aligned with what you want to manifest are the BIGGEST communicators to the universe.  So, notice what you want to tell the universe and then see if your actions are aligned with that, if they aren’t change them.  

Ex: If you do actually want to become a rich millionaire, take a simple step to look at what kind of glass a millionaire drinks out of.  And then look at what kind of glass you’re drinking out of… If it's not the same kind of glass, go get yourself a new one aligned with the kind of glass you see a millionaire drinking out of.  This is easy and simple and doesn’t cost a lot of money.  Then notice if there’s any doubt or resistance in the background and notice how you feel when you’re sipping your tea out of that glass… Viola… you just aligned your thoughts, feelings and actions into becoming a millionaire.

When you change your thoughts, feelings, and actions…you are on track to not only creating but living a life you LOVE!  The best part is, you’ll feel good in the process.  While you’re on your path, be patient with yourself my friend.  It can take time to master your energies. I’m still doing the work every single day to do better, be better and have better.  But remember that you CAN do this and that I’m here with you on this journey.

If you have any comments, questions or want to know more about Energetic Self Mastery you can email me, Facebook message me, or reach out to me on Instagram.

About Tamara Ross

Tamara Ross is the founder and CEO of My Life My Design. She is a highly sought after Energetics Expert and the creator of the Energetic Self Mastery Program. She not only trains individuals and entrepreneurs to create MORE for themselves and their lives, but also trains individuals to impact others with a certified Energetic Coaching Program.

Tamara’s teachings in energy guides individuals to create lives filled with love, joy, success and balance all while increasing their profits and money flows. She trains people in removing the barriers to their success so they can manifest ANYTHING they desire.

Tamara's expertise has allowed for her to create a house in the mountains and a vacation house on the beach, grow a multiple 6- figure company with a 70% profitability margin, and live a life with no compromises all while positively impacting thousands of individuals world wide.

Tamara Ross

Founder and CEO of My Life My Design

Pivoting to Profits: How to Create, Grow, and Establish a New Business No Matter What the Economy is Doing

Pivoting to Profits:

How to Create, Establish and Grow a Business No Matter What the Economy is Doing

When big changes happen to the economy, fear rises and most people become paralyzed not knowing what to do next. However, if you ground yourself in who you are, what you have to offer, and cultivate the flexibility to shift your offerings as the economy and demands change; you have a huge opportunity to stay profitable, start something amazing and even make it big!

Riddle me this Batman…. 

What do WhatsApp, Venmo, Groupon, Instagram, Uber, Pinterest and Square all have in common? 

They were all founded in the last US recession in 2008.

When things begin to go south, many people begin to follow the money trail looking for security thinking they couldn’t possibly do what they love and get paid for it.  Believing you have to choose between following your passion or making money is a surefire way to lead to and perpetuate a passionless, purposeless life. What if I told you that you don’t have to choose? That there IS a way to easily turn your passion into financial gain…right from the comfort of your own home. For all my entrepreneurs, creators, and thought leaders… I GOT YOU! Trust me to guide you on a journey that not only serves you spiritually but will also promote financial prosperity within your energy field.

There are three things that can potentially screw up your chances of stepping into your own greatness: Fear, Inadequacy, and Doing “it” (whatever YOUR it is) the right way. Anxiety towards any new venture is a natural feeling. BUT... that doesn’t mean that you have to be consumed in that feeling. If you want to step into your greatness and turn your passion into a profit, there are ways to overcome self-doubting feelings…and you bet your sweet ass I know the way!

Often times, we won’t allow ourselves to be great because we don’t TRUST ourselves enough to know that we can in fact, do it. We don’t trust ourselves enough to know that this is our perfect moment. Like I said before, THAT DOESN’T MEAN YOU HAVE TO BE CONSUMED BY THE FEELINGS THAT HOLD YOU BACK. There are plenty of ways to overcome any dismissive thoughts that prevent you from reaching your highest potential.

In order to overcome the self-doubt that you’re experiencing, you can follow these techniques that I personally use for creating, growing, and establishing my own business: 

Failure doesn't really exist

By this, I mean that failure is simply just judgment and comparison to other people and what they’ve done or created. If you allow yourself to remove the comparisons, you can create anything you want and create anything BEYOND your imagination. By mastering my own fear of failure, I was able to exponentialize my company year-after-year—doubling my income and revenue double, triple, QUADRUPLE and even 10 times each year. I also don’t allow myself to be afraid of me, my success, or the idea of becoming a failure. You know why? Because I consider myself to be a BAD ASS who can do bad ass things. 

Stop comparing yourself to others

Comparison will get you NOWHERE, my friend! When you look at other entrepreneurs doing it well, business owners making it big, or thought leaders who have really impacted the world, there can be a huge gap in how you relate yourself to them. This gap can leave you feeling like you will never measure up or be in the same league as them. This type of thinking will have you doubting your expertise, your abilities, and the contribution you are to make on this planet. As long as you allow yourself to level the playing field and put yourself at an equal level as the people you compare yourself to, you will be able to anchor the energy of success ultimately allowing you to step into your own greatness. When I look at myself and my own journey, I notice that my success expanded exponentially when I could see myself at the same level as those other big names. 

Use Your Intuition… Stop Planning!

I’ve been an entrepreneur for 15 years, and the one thing that I know for sure is that there is no ONE RIGHT PLAN that will have you succeed. When I started building My Life My Design, I invested in partnerships, online programs, and sales funnels that promised to make me a lot of money. I followed all the directions and learned great things about myself. As an entrepreneur, none of those PLANS brought me the great success that I was looking for. It wasn’t until I left the plan behind and started using my intuition that I was able to find the kind of success that I was striving for. Using your intuition will be the key to how high you fly. Not only will you intuit what your clients want, what your deepest desires are, or what makes you stand out in your industry but when you merge these three things and tune into your intuition, your highest self will be able to guide you to the path of least resistance and the most success

The time to embrace economical changes is NOW. Rather than paralyzing your ideas and not knowing what the next step is, PARALYZE YOUR SELF DOUBT. Paralyze your fear. Paralyze your anxiety. As long as you are aware, grounded, and flexible to the change that surrounds you, you will be able to stay profitable in your business and your clients will see your efforts as pertinent.

About Tamara Ross

Tamara Ross is the founder and CEO of My Life My Design. She is a highly sought after Energetics Expert and the creator of the Energetic Self Mastery Program. She not only trains individuals and entrepreneurs to create MORE for themselves and their lives, but also trains individuals to impact others with a certified Energetic Coaching Program.

Tamara’s teachings in energy guides individuals to create lives filled with love, joy, success and balance all while increasing their profits and money flows. She trains people in removing the barriers to their success so they can manifest ANYTHING they desire.

Tamara's expertise has allowed for her to create a house in the mountains and a vacation house on the beach, grow a multiple 6- figure company with a 70% profitability margin, and live a life with no compromises all while positively impacting thousands of individuals world wide.

Tamara Ross

Founder and CEO of My Life My Design

How to Grow Your Awareness During Times of Uncertainty with 3 Easy Practices

How to Grow Your Awareness During Times of Uncertainty With Three Easy Practices

Within the last few weeks, we have all had to make some SERIOUS adjustments to our personal and work lives. Whether it’s your kid’s being out of school, your business experiencing some financial struggles, or the fact that you’re having to learn how to connect with friends, family and co-workers in a new way, it is safe to say that our ‘normal’ is not what it looked like last month or last year.  Now, more than ever you may be looking for a way to cope with all the uncertainty presenting itself right now. The best place to start is in building your AWARENESS so that you can relax and gain more power. When you grow your capacity to be more aware you’ll actually gain the ability to make sense of the things that may seem currently out of your control.  

The following three practices will help you gain more awareness and reach a higher vibration with ANYTHING you may be dealing with.  If you are feeling anxious, lonely, or fearful, you my friend are NOT alone. When the proverbial Shit hits the fan, that’s a normal response.  But, here at My Life My Design we are dedicated to people achieving energetic mastery… Not necessarily having you follow the norm.  

When you tune in to these three practices, you will gain guidance from your higher self and be able to out-create any situation that presents itself.

About Tamara Ross

Tamara Ross is the founder and CEO of My Life My Design. She is a highly sought after Energetics Expert and the creator of the Energetic Self Mastery Program. She not only trains individuals and entrepreneurs to create MORE for themselves and their lives, but also trains individuals to impact others with a certified Energetic Coaching Program.

Tamara’s teachings in energy guides individuals to create lives filled with love, joy, success and balance all while increasing their profits and money flows. She trains people in removing the barriers to their success so they can manifest ANYTHING they desire.

Tamara's expertise has allowed for her to create a house in the mountains and a vacation house on the beach, grow a multiple 6- figure company with a 70% profitability margin, and live a life with no compromises all while positively impacting thousands of individuals world wide.

Tamara Ross

Founder and CEO of My Life My Design

How to Get What You Want in Life: A fast 3 step process for having the life you want now!

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How to Get What You Want in Life:

A Fast Three Step Process For Having The Life You Want Now!

Let me just start by saying…Energy is my business. It’s my zone of genius. And, in my opinion, energetic mastery is the MOST important capacity to develop yourself in to have the bright, shiny, beautiful life you want.

I have been prepping for my next 3-day event – Create, Manifest Actualize the Shit out of 2020, and as part of my prep I’ve been tuned into the energy of the people who want to be there. Those who:

have said YES and registered – WAY TO CHOOSE YOU!

have said YES and still aren’t registered – Get your butt in gear folks!

haven’t said yes yet, but want to – Again, get after it. The action moves things forward.

don’t know about the event, but would be a yes if they did – Do you know any of those people? Send them this link!

I’ve been tapping into the collective energy to see what attendees want to get out of the program, what they want to change in their lives, where they might be stuck, and I’ve begun activating the healing energies that are needed so they are SUPER FUCKING POTENT when our people arrive. 

I am 100% INVESTED IN the people I work with getting what they want, healing their past up-leveling their experience of life and mastering their energy. As I tapped into the energy, I was overwhelmed by the pain, frustration and disappointment people are dealing with. And if there is one thing I know it’s that THERE IS ANOTHER WAY! 

Change is inevitable. Suffering is optional. So here it is…My simple 3-step process for having the life you want now!

Step 1: Get clear on what you REALLY want?

Do you want this year to be different? Do you want this year to be the one where that thing, you know that thing you’ve been wanting or complaining about and putting up with forever, FINALLY CHANGES

Do you feel like you just can’t take it anymore? That something or everything has to change because you JUST CAN’T GO ON LIKE THIS? If you want things to go your way, you need to be clear on what YOUR WAY looks like. 

You gotta get super freaking clear on what it is you desire, and if you want to go the extra mile you’ll get clear on what it will feel like when you get it!

Now let me fill you in on the ONE thing that will get you what you want whether it’s a new job, more money, a great relationship, an amicable end to your current relationship, a body you love or a WHOLE DAMN LIFE OVER! The one thing that will change everything! This one thing has the power to change it all because you have the power to change it all! 

And it is…Being UNREASONABLE! To make MAJOR changes. To grow in a big kind of way. To take a quantum leap forward you have to get unreasonable in your thinking, your commitment, and your actions! 

You have to be more interested in your vision and your future than in justifying why you’ve gotten to where you are, or explaining why you can’t really have what you want because of your past.

Step 2: Ask yourself, “Have I been BEING REASONABLE?”

Look at your life and be honest with yourself… Have you been being reasonable?

Reasonable as defined by the Oxford dictionary is:

(of a person) having sound judgment; fair and sensible.

as much as is appropriate or fair; moderate.

I’d like you to ask yourself a question and answer it honestly. Is your current situation, the life you really want? Is it the life you used to dream about when you were a kid? Is it the life you wake up excited to live?

Or is this life best described as…reasonable?

Tell the truth… It’s a bit REASONABLE, isn’t it? What kind of life do you really want?

I mean, if you had it all your way? Would you like it described as… Unprecedented? Magical? Yummy beyond your wildest imagination? Or maybe just… UN-reasonable

You can be COMMITTED. Make SENSIBLE DECISIONS and WANT MORE. But, taking actions that are of sound judgment and make sense will probably only land you EXACTLY where you are… which if you are reading this means you’re being reasonable.

And… Something inside of you is ready for, or dare I say has called in, this exact message because YOU STILL WANT MORE!

There are parts of your life that you are DONE putting up with. And you know to get where you want to go, to have the life that you want, to live your life your way – it’s going to take more. It’s going to require you to be UNREASONABLE

And that’s what I want for you! I want you to be UNREASONABLE! I want you to look at yourself, your life and what you want to create and then… I want you to take an unreasonable action that makes you feel uncomfortable in the best of ways because you know it’s moving you toward what you really, really want. It might even make your butt pucker a little!

I know that when you are unreasonable with yourself.. You produce UNREASONABLE change and that change, changes everything! So here it is…

STEP 3: BE UNREASONABLE!

What do I mean by be unreasonable? Let me tell you.

Presence your answer to Step 1. Take a moment of silence to center yourself, get into your body, call in your guides and remember that you are psychic, intuitive and aware AF.

Ask the question, “Would being with Tamara for 3 days at Create, Manifest Actualize the Sh*t out of 2020 or joining her in the 12-month Energetic Self Mastery Program help me create the life I want?

Now here’s the unreasonable part, if the answer was YES, even if it doesn’t make any sense, even if you are scared, take the next action and…

CLICK HERE TO TALK WITH SOMEONE FROM MY TEAM!

YEAH! IT’S FUCKING UNREASONABLE, I know! I told you it would be and when you really tune in, I know you know that being unreasonable is what’s required now. When you want big changes the next most aligned step is usually the unreasonable, uncomfortable step that you’ve been avoiding or didn’t want to acknowledge existed. So…JUST DO IT!

CLICK HERE TO SETUP A TIME TO TALK WITH MY TEAM TODAY!

And if you are nervous, that’s okay… My team is kind, loving and here for you. They are trained in Energetic Mastery and are fully capable of guiding you to tap into your intuition and supporting you in taking the leap that could put you on the path to EVERYTHING YOU want. And, because you might need a little extra nudge, I’m going to invite you one more time…

CLICK HERE TO SCHEDULE YOUR CALL!

I love you. You can do this. It’s not hard, just click the link, email, and schedule a call today. We promise to leave you better than you found us. And…Remember energy is thoughts, feelings, and actions. If you want to change your life, you have to change your energy. It’s not personal. It’s not optional. It just is. MIC DROP!

About Tamara Ross

Tamara Ross is the founder and CEO of My Life My Design. She is a highly sought after Energetics Expert and the creator of the Energetic Self Mastery Program. She not only trains individuals and entrepreneurs to create MORE for themselves and their lives, but also trains individuals to impact others with a certified Energetic Coaching Program.

Tamara’s teachings in energy guides individuals to create lives filled with love, joy, success and balance all while increasing their profits and money flows. She trains people in removing the barriers to their success so they can manifest ANYTHING they desire.

Tamara's expertise has allowed for her to create a house in the mountains and a vacation house on the beach, grow a multiple 6- figure company with a 70% profitability margin, and live a life with no compromises all while positively impacting thousands of individuals world wide.

Tamara Ross

Founder and CEO of My Life My Design

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